006 – Robert Glover PhD – Get What You Want in Love & Life


Dr. Robert Glover is an internationally recognized authority on the Nice Guy Syndrome. He is a frequent guest on radio talk shows and has been featured in numerous local and national publications. His work has helped thousands of Nice Guys & Girls transform from being passive, resentful victims to empowered, integrated people.

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3 Key Points:

  1. You need to learn how to sooth your own anxiety rather than trying to manage it through other people
  2. Integrity and boundaries allow you to command respect from others and get more of what you want in life and relationships
  3. Cooperative Reciprocal Relationships are both necessary and healthy in life. When you understand your CRRs you can begin to have healthy expectations for yourself and others.

Show Notes

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  • [08:00] – Dr. Glover explains how beliefs form
    • Why we all start out as narcissists
    • How our parents shape our core beliefs before we can even talk
  • [13:50] – Why integrity is the core component for success and respect
    • What it means to have integrity
    • How integrity allows a man or woman to command respect
  • [16:00] – How to set boundaries the right way
    • How to create boundaries without being a jerk
    • Why boundaries are so critical to ENHANCE a relationship
  • [19:00] – Dr. Glover explains the dangers of “Covert Contracts”
    • What is a covert contract
    • How to know if you make covert contracts
    • Why you should do things for you instead of expecting something in return
  • [24:12] – What it means to fill your bucket
  • [25:33] – Why you probably have toxic shame & how to get rid of it and become your authentic self
    • How to get past your mistakes or past experiences that continue to destroy your relationships
  • [28:20] – Why most of us try to manage our anxiety through other people, and why that’s a disaster waiting to happen
    • How to sooth your own anxiety
    • Dr. Glover’s special breathing technique
  • [37:14] – Creating Cooperative Reciprocal Relationships
    • Dr. Glover explains a special exercise to build and keep all types of relationships in our lives
    • Why CRRs are vital for success in life


Awesome Resources!

1) The Goal Setting Guide: Learn how to set goals and actually accomplish them within 90 days!

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