How to Be a Man’s Man (or Woman’s Woman)

How to Be a Man's Man

Whether you want to be respected, successful, or enjoy the most out of life, it’s important to know how to be a man’s man (or woman’s woman).  In this role, you command respect, accomplish a lot more and literally get more out of life.

This article will look at a few keys to being a man’s man and will reference a few articles and books that serve as incredible resources.

How to Be a Man’s Man

Being a man’s man isn’t as hard as you might think…  you don’t need to do anything weird like wrestling a bear, skinning a deer, pounding shots of tequila, smoking cigars or anything else that might go along with the man’s man stereotype.

Being a mans man is an attitude.

How to Be a Man's Man - No More Mr Nice Guy

From this attitude, your actions will shift a little, but you don’t have to give up who you are (especially if you like who you are).  Rather, being a man’s man will be an extension of who you already are.

I highly recommend the book No More Mr. Nice Guy by Robert Glover

Step 1 – Confidence

Every Man’s man is confident.  Period.  They believe in themselves and their abilities, and they don’t take crap from anyone.

This doesn’t mean they’re assholes though.  Quite the opposite… they’re stand-up individuals.  They’re honorable and they respect those around them.  The key difference is that they don’t live their life to please other people.

Rather, men’s men know what they like, understand what they need, and they aren’t shy about making sure they get those things.

If someone puts them down or attacks them, they stand up for themselves with strong boundaries and willingness to confront problems head-on.

Step 2 – Direct Communication

Consider how you would act if you were confident… if you fit the description above…

As a result, you would communicate directly.

If you needed something, you would ask.  When you had a problem, you would talk about it immediately and find a solution.

In relationships, a man’s man confronts issues.  He doesn’t hid from them nor does he shrink in times of pressure.

In business, a man’s man loves the negotiation.  He loves the game and he’s willing to play full out and risk confrontation.  The man’s man is shrewd and ready to handle challenges.

Step 3 – Hang Around Other Men

If you want to be a man’s man or woman’s woman, you absolutely must hang out with the same gender.

This step alone made a huge difference in my own life.  It allowed me to get in tough with my masculinity and tap into my manliness.

Whether you’re a man or a woman, you need to take time each week to go out with friends of the same gender (not as a couple).  It’s healthy for you as a person and it’s healthy for your relationships.

It can be hard to tell your significant other you want to spend time away from them, but the results will make it worthwhile and after a few weeks your significant other will support the idea… trust me.

What A Man’s Man Does Differently

I found a great list of how a Man’s Man acts, and I wanted to pull a few nuggets from the list.  You can find the entire list here.

Here are my top 10 things you can start doing:

  1. Stop talking about where you went to college (or even worse: high school)
  2. Always carry enough cash
  3. When in doubt, always kiss the girl
  4. Tip more than you should and don’t split a check
  5. Do 50 push-ups, sit-ups, and dips before you shower each morning.
  6. Eat brunch with friends at least every other weekend
  7. Be spontaneous and trust yourself
  8. Buy a tuxedo before you are 30 and stay that size
  9. No-one cares if you are offended, and never expect “closure” in real life
  10. Don’t ever say, “it is what it is”

Here are a couple more articles that really shed light on the essence of a man’s man:

  1. 19 Characteristics of a Man’s Man
  2. How to Be Respected by Men and Women Alike

Leave me a comment and let me know what you think and what changes you’ll make.  Let me know when you finish reading “No More Mr. Nice Guy” and we can talk!

2 thoughts on “How to Be a Man’s Man (or Woman’s Woman)”

  1. This was something ive been struggling with most of my life. Other guys are always impressed by my look until i open my mouthto much and it ruins it because i look lke a outgoing tough guy but come off as a slightly feminine type. Women love the attitude, think im very good looking but wont go further than a friendship. They say im bubbly and sweet. Now i feel like their insulting me in a nice way. When im quiet. I damn near get followed by complete strangers admiring me.


    1. Sean,

      I totally feel your pain! In my experience, the best thing you can do is to not “try” to be liked or act in a way you think will garner approval. Instead, decide who you are and how you want to be, then be yourself and don’t act any different for any type of approval.

      If women say your bubbly & sweet, but only want to be friends, my guess is that you care too much about what they think and may be trying to please them. Of course, I could be wrong, but that’s my initial thoughts to your post. I hope that helps!

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